I go on when I’m bored and feel like answering stuff. Then I look for questions that I’m confident I can answer. This used to be a dedicated blog, but now its more of a side blog that I use once or twice a week.
Don’t flirt with him and recognize that he’s taken. You can have a crush on him, but don’t act on it. Just try to be friends, and maybe let him know you’re an option if they ever break up.
Let your best friend know how you feel, though.
So there’s this girl that you missed a chance with. You feel like you’re never going to see her again and you missed out on a beautiful relationship or a friendship or whatever you were going for.
What’s wrong with you? You built up this entire idea - a dream of what would happen between you two that might not even happen, and you’re letting it crush you. You need to move on and be happy you met her.
What if you got her number? You might’ve texted for a few weeks. Got bored. Stopped talking. Never see each other again.
Maybe long distance relationship. Date. Get married. Build a family.
But whatever happened, has happened. And maybe you weren’t meant for her. Maybe you’re like a lot of guys who see pretty girls and they’re like “SHES THE ONE”
Watch this short film called “Love Sick” and you might get what I’m trying to say: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JFDAvcwDPTA
I hope I helped.
Listen, what you are feeling is a social expectation or a reliance on other people to make you feel better about yourself. You need to become self reliant and stop expecting yourself to be in a relationship. A lot of my friends are single and they’re fine with the independence and happy with just friends.
Maybe you feel unloved.. but that’s not the case.
Happiness is humanity’s natural state, but it gets buried by expectations and people are no longer happy. If you ask a 4 year old kid if they’re happy they’ll be like “Of course I’m happy!” No one expects anything of a 4 year old kids. They’re 4 years old! Teenagers are less happy because they have many more expectations brought upon them.. a license, job, chores, good grades, lots of homework, good looks, and RELATIONSHIPS to make them feel better about themselves.
When you were 4, you didn’t need a girlfriend/boyfriend to make you feel better about yourself. You probably didn’t care what other people thought of you. But now you do cause all the sudden you’re a teenager with raging hormones and you’re confused about your sexuality and you have this expectation nailed in your brain that if you’re different then you just all around suck.. but that’s not the case.
Let your sexuality come to you and don’t question it to the point of anxiety. If you like a guy, you like a guy. If you like a girl, you like a girl.
And at least you were in a relationship at one point. You have some appeal! I’ve never had a girlfriend and I’m fine with that. Sure, maybe I’m too insecure to be in a relationship, but I don’t expect myself to be in a relationship. I have too many other expectations (like my job, straight A’s, and tons of homework) to add another expectation on to bury my happiness even more. I don’t need to find a girlfriend. I’ll let it come to me even if it takes years.
As for you, stop giving yourself so many expectations. I hope I helped.
Last year I was a sophomore and I goofed off with a GPA of like 1.8 or something. I didn’t do my homework. I fell asleep in math class. And my teachers were pretty bad at their job. This year, I stepped it up and got straight A’s so far. Colleges look at improvements. I have to get straight A’s for the rest of my high school career to get a 3+ GPA. If you get straight A’s and B’s for the rest of your high school career, you should get by with a 3.0.. even if you’re a senior.
What helped me is dropping my honors classes that I wasn’t doing well in (science and math… I kept honors english and I might go up to AP next year), and actually doing homework and studying for tests. It takes maybe 2 hours of effort each night and I do it all even with a 6-10 job after school 2 nights a week. You can too.
I’ll be on the blog all day today, so if something is bothering you go ahead and ask away.
All the originals. Mason, Merry, Eric and Matt. Jon and Sienna don’t go on that much at all. I’m here everyday. They just got worn out is all.
That’s great! Congratulations, that is an amazing thing to be proud of, it’s so great to hear about people getting better.
Of course, I’ll try to get word of our blog out more tomorrow. Many of the original admins quit the blog, so only a few remain. But that does not mean we won’t listen. We are here to help as much as we possibly can.
You shouldn’t feel guilty. You’re saying he keeps progressing the fight when you try to ignore it, that sounds like its more of his fault. Especially when he denies his own words. Your father sounds like he is the main reason for this problem. Try to have a slow calm conversation with your mother about it and see if you could try to work something out. This is not your fault and you should not feel guilty.
It sounds you went through a tough time. I’m glad you were able to push through to the better days and you’re definitely right, things do get better. :)
We’re back after a very long absence that we are sorry for. I’m the only admin as of now. Our ask box is open so feel free to go ahead and ask away.
That truly is a difficult choice to make. Maybe you can possibly help with whatever is getting him grounded, so you can stay with him and be happy. On the other hand if you were to break up with him, you would have your freedom but as you said you would be miserable. If I were in your position I would try the first and try to help with his problems whatever they may be so that you can be happy altogether. Being happy in any way is better than being miserable, especially in this situation.
We are very glad to hear you are overcoming your anxiety and as for being as late as I am I would gladly spread the word of your blog, it’s truly a great thing you are doing :)